Our secrets for women seeking a smidgen of security.

Draw the Line

Just Say No

Do you often find yourself torn between prioritizing your needs and trying to please everyone else? It's a common struggle that can leave you feeling lost and overwhelmed.

"Boundaries" — yes, we know it's an overused buzzword, but they're crucial for your happiness, especially in relationships—including the one with yourself. Learning to say "no" can be truly life-changing and help alleviate that floating anxiety many of us can't quite put into words.

Here's how to start: Identify what makes you uncomfortable. Is it agreeing to social plans you're not vibing with and then feeling regret? Or helping a needy friend when you should be taking care of yourself? Learning to say "no" to something your gut instantly warns you about is a superpower. Feel the discomfort, then make a decision instead of overthinking. Remember, if you can't say no to yourself, it becomes harder to say no to others. The sense of empowerment we feel when we begin to own even small decisions that prioritize our needs is incredibly rewarding.

Laugh Your Ass Off

At least you're not a dick

Need a break from relationship stress? Here's a secret weapon: Laughter releases feel-good chemicals called endorphins, creating an instant mood boost - like a free therapy session! When you're feeling overwhelmed or unsafe in your relationship, laughing heals.

Think of humor as your emotional shield. When relationship challenges feel heavy, finding reasons to laugh can help you feel more secure and resilient. Whether it's watching your favorite rom-com, reading relatable relationship memes, or venting with your inner circle of friends, laughter creates a safe space where you can be yourself. Remember - being able to laugh at life is a superpower.

Here’s how to start: FFS: Do an audit of your Instagram feed. Is it filled with positive, uplifting content, or does it leave you feeling like you need to get butt implants and start a juice cleanse? Remember, you have the power to curate your digital environment. Unfollow accounts that don't serve you and seek out those that inspire and motivate you.

Curate Your Coven

Thank Fuck For You

A support network of friends who uplift and encourage you is essential. These are real people who genuinely celebrate your wins and can literally hold you up when you can't go on. They understand that feeling safe should never be a compromise and that your values are worth fighting for.

This 'front row' provides a sense of security without judgment. They're the ones who'll bring you ice cream (or vodka) and listen to the same problem on repeat until you've processed it, but also call you out if you fail to prioritize self-care and personal growth.

Here’s how to start: Remember, it's okay to be picky about who you let into your inner circle. Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe, respected, and valued. These relationships should fill your cup and help you make decisions that align with your worth.

PS: Protect these friendships like your life depends on it.

Meet Your Inner Self: A Crash Course in Self-Awareness

What if you're right?

Ever feel like you're a stranger in your own mind? Welcome to the wild world of self-awareness, where you're the star of your own reality show.

So what exactly is mindfulness? Think of it as becoming a detective of your own thoughts. When emotions pop up uninvited (that floating feeling we learned last week is anxiety), try sitting with them instead of shooing them away by cleaning, working, eating, or drinking. Imagine your feelings are awkward guests you need to make an effort to get to know.

Here’s how to start: Next time something makes you feel frustrated or annoyed, just feel it. Sit with it until it passes—because it always does. It's when we distract ourselves from these feelings that they linger and pop up uninvited later.

Developing this inner awareness is a powerful tool for feeling safe and secure. Because what if you're right? What if those feelings you're experiencing, no matter how uncomfortable, are actually telling you something important about yourself or your situation?

Remember, there's no right or wrong way to feel—the goal is simply to understand yourself better.

Take The Walk: Prioritize Physical Health

Carpe the crap out of this Diem

Physical activity isn't just about getting a body that looks photoshopped (trust us, we all keep trying). It's about feeling good in your own skin, even if that skin has lived a few lives. Regular exercise boosts energy levels and self-confidence—fundamental to feeling safe and secure. Committing to regular exercise, no matter how small, can strengthen your immune system by increasing antibody production, reducing fatigue, and boosting energy. This makes you feel more motivated throughout the day and helps you sleep better at night.

It's also crucial for our mental health. Exercise triggers the release of endorphins to alleviate anxiety and tension, and like laughing, it boosts your mood and self-image. It's a bit like sex—how many times do we finally get back on the horse and say, "Gosh, I wish I'd done that sooner?"

Here’s how to start: Literally go take some steps. No one's asking you to sign up for a marathon, join the gym, or try Zumba. Just take a walk, and then another. There are no shortcuts or magic pills. You’ve got this.